long story somewhat short...I kicked H out on 8/13 for not stopping the EA; first time in our 13 yr. marriage we became somewhat mean to each other over little things.
I bought a place, re-homed my dogs, sold many things to pay day care, self reflected...180 all the way...recently, one of our dogs came back home and I don't have a yard so H offered to stay over during the week to help watch toddler or do some of the walks...My DB coach said this is good... However H is depressed, stressed about work and not making enough money, talks about he wants to get a place for himself and cant, for some reason he gave my daugther and I a valentine's cake and chocolates, ask us to dinner tonight. so many mixed signals and yet, I have to stay strong for my daugther, our doggie and myself.
H 38, me 39 M 13 D 2 yrs BD 2/2013 H in LDEA 2011-2014 H kicked out of our home 8/2013
It s*cks doesn't it?! Mixed signals is what we'll get. Only thing to do is try to be happy. I say stop trying to figure out why they what they do and just take any positive that comes your way with no expectations.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
Why are you confused? Sounds like you have your act together and he doesn't. Take a good, long look at what he has become .......not what you once fell in love with. Then ask yourself if you deserve better.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
2ndtimehurt thank you for the advice with no expectations...sandi2, I enjoyed your objectivity. Who I fell in love with is not who I have been in love for 13yrs...our journey made the two of us change and grow in many ways. He is still caring and a good person who has not made all the right choices in his life. Do I deserve better? Always, but better doesn't necessarily means someone different. Wow,good self reflection moment.
H 38, me 39 M 13 D 2 yrs BD 2/2013 H in LDEA 2011-2014 H kicked out of our home 8/2013
and myself.