OneDay - yes, he is spending $3k a month on his "Dad Pad." (It makes me want to barf just typing that.) I am not sure this is about the money at all . . . he went and hired the most expensive attorney in town. If he wanted to keep the costs down, he could (a) not get divorced; (b) not hire his own attorney; (c) hire an attorney that doesn't charge $650/hr. But - I guess it is easier to just blame me.
AS - the injunction in my County applies to all D or S cases, and is much more general than yours. We can spend money as in the normal course of business - we just can't do something like spend $30k on a trip to Bora Bora. I know exactly why he is mad, it has to do with his partnership interest. He wants to give it up but he can't because the value of it is a marital asset. That was funny that you said vent on FB - it took me a minute to figure out that you must mean DB FB. At first I was imagining updating my status to say, "My H is being an a$$hole." LOL.
MM - every case in my county is ordered to mediate. My ideal is to work things out with just the two of us and our lawyers, and not even get to mediation.
I am not going to go the "no lawyers" route. There is too much complex stuff to figure out, and I don't know what I am doing. What's that saying? A lawyer who represents herself has a fool for a client?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
