Thank you! So today our real estate agent came so we could sign the papers to open escrow on our house. My H was at the house today watching the kids for a while and we were together when we signed. I don't know if doing things like that is any good because I don't want to give the impression that I agree with any of it, but I have no choice but to go along with it. After our agent left, I brought up dividing our belongings because if all goes well, we have to be out of the house in 30 days starting tomorrow. He pretty much said he didn't care too much about many things. I told him I was planning on renting an apartment or buying a condo soon after the sale so I do want to take the kids furniture, the couch and our kitchen items. He has no problem with it. I think he is just going to continue renting a room from his cousin. So he really doesn't need much. I told him he can have everything from our bedroom. I also brought up the issue of child/spousal support. I know that's a hot button topic for him because he already pays a considerable amount to his D8's mom, but there is no way I can take it easy on him. I was a SAHM for 4 years and will not finish school till the end of this year so he needs to understand that he has left me and the kids in a difficult spot. I think he feels that because we are selling our assets and will be walking away with a good chunk of money, that I would let that issue slide. Ummm not likely! I feel when I talk about that though that it's something that pushes him away. Reminding him that I've been dependent on him and will continue to be at least till I start working after I'm done with school. I also mentioned to him that he hasn't been very considerate and he took offense to that because to him providing financially was him being considerate. He also insinuated that me staying home wasn't really his choice...? I couldn't believe my ears!! In the almost four years we've been married never has he stressed to me that he wanted me to get a job! I was busy raising our daughter(now our son), I've been going to school off and on since we've been married and I thought it was by mutual agreement that I would stay him with the kids till our youngest was old enough to go to daycare and I can at that point begin my career. I believe he says that now because my dependence on him financially is an issue he has had with me, but never made me aware of. I can't wait to start working and show him that I am not someone just comforable with staying home and having babies. That was never my life's goal. I just thought I had married someone with the same beliefs that I had. I don't know where to go from here. I don't know how to talk to him. I feel that anything I say or do is taken as bad and wrong! I'm walking on eggshells. Any advice is greatly appreciated:)
