I won't give up II

[Notlikingthis]

Hi all, I spoke with my attorney this morning and found that what kml stated above is how a separation is handled in my state. All financials have to be disclosed. What I read about 6 months of separation before a D can be filed is also correct.

My h had sent me a text early this morning about seeing our daughter on the way to work today. She had given him a late Valentine's present and his text was to thank me. I didn't respond to it but was going to send him a short email this afternoon telling him that he was welcome and that it was her idea and I had just helped her make the purchase. Before I had a chance to send it he called this to see why I hadn't responded. I told him that I that I was going to respond but hadn't had a chance.

He then told me that he had an meeting with an attorney today and filled out some of the paperwork. I let him tell me what he needed to and then asked him to explain what the paperwork involved, what the process was etc. He made it sound as if it was just a piece of paper that said we weren't living together any longer! HA! I asked him if it involved separating accts., etc and he said NO. That there was nothing in the paperwork that asked for that info. He was more focused on the question that they asked about our disabled daughter and whether we were supporting 51% or more of her living expenses. Either he is clueless as to what he is signing or he is hiding info from me. He told me that once the paperwork was finished that HE would be delivering it to me and not a processor. After he finished saying what he needed to say I asked him why he was doing this if it didn't involved any division of assets. He said it's "just something I need to do". I don't believe that for a minute. But if for some reason it is and thinks this will relieve his guilt, he's in for a rude awakening. I told him that if it ends up involving disclosure and dividing of assets that we should talk about this a little more. He agreed and then changed the subject.

I talked to my attorney again after that and he said that it does require that assets be disclosed and not to sign any paperwork that he brings to me but to forward it to him. We had a bit of a discussion about my h's state of mind and his behavior, confusion and physical changes. He said that he has seen many men in their 60's that go through a period of being manic depressive and that it's not as uncommon as you think. He warned me to contact him right away if I see anything unusual with the finances. There is some sort of court order that he can file so that he can't start taking or transferring funds as he pleases.

I'm a little shaky right now and think I'm near having a panic attack. I have to go lay down for a bit and breathe!