Working on Divorce Busting every Day!

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We were in the process of remodeling our dream home when the BD happened. I went and saw it today. Breaks my heart because this was my dream for our entire marriage and there is a really good chance that he will end up with it. I know that it is only a "house" It was dream of both of ours but he bought the property just because I wanted it. Now he says under no circumstances will he allow me to have this property. He wants me to hurt as much as I have hurt him.
I wonder if I should just walk away from it or I should truly fight for it (if finances allow it) At least I would have my dream home if the M fails.
The nice thing is my designer says he is on my side and praying daily for me. He feels my H is "lost" and I need to do whatever I can to keep him from losing his family forever.
I appreciate the sentiment but I can't snap my fingers and make him come back. There is nothing I can do to bring him back, except PRAY, FAST, GAL, Move on, READ DB, Talk to my DB coach.

I will go with the flow.

You said stop letting him be apart of my plans. My H wants us to do all kid activities together. 3X he asked me to go to a sporting class with him and my daughter. I have refused each time because I explained it was just a class and would confuse my daughter if we went together.
In our shared parenting papers he also is under the impression that we will continue to share the house - we leave on our non-kid days. Is this part of the WAS syndrome where they truly don't understand everything they are doing.
He is also completely and totally convinced that if he is happier the kids will be happier. He wants everything to be the same, except me out and I am assuming a new girl in. (Have not found evidence of a PA) Have found some evidence I believe of an EA. Though he has denied it.
All of this is from a few weeks ago. The last couple of weeks I am trying to be pleasant when we are around.
He did text me the other day and say "I won the mom of the year award". Then he goes very distant. I am working hard to only text when it involved our kids.
Also at first I was making the kids call their dad every night. I have started letting him call if he wants to talk to them. I'm not sure if this is the right move or not for the children's sake. He will call and then go a day without calling them. Thoughts on this.
I know I am probably over analyzing every single thing.