Part 4 - What Happened? WAW is a completely different person is what happened.
Well WAW and I are still living together and the D is still going with no sign of stopping or R. Mediation is the next step. We dont talk about the D or R what so ever. Actually WAW and I dont speak much, and if we do, its about kids, dogs, or bills. Most conversations, even casual ones, She looks and speaks at me like I am the enemy. Its a horrible feeling, that Im sure many of you are aware, and it Su#ks. Im still not drinking, or dipping, and I maintain a PMA, have much more patients and am still doing 180's.
She is still talking and more than likely seeing Dirt bag OM. Again, her focus went from "Im trying to be the best mom I can for these boys" To putting the majority of her focus on the OM.(it makes me sick) This is not her, and I cant figure it out. I need to stop trying because I can see how it could consume me if I let it. Im still snooping the phone records, but have slowed down. I know for my own sanity and in order to detach I must STOP.
Also I spoke with my Attorney about WAW and the OM. He was not very please with her behavior and pulling all nighters and seeing OM with his criminal record. Not good for her character. You see, She is trying to get majority custody of the children, for no apparent reason other than child support. I've asked her a few times why, and the answer is always different, but comes back to "Its just the way I personally feel" Anyhow he wants to get a P.I. to follow and take pics of the 2 of them and use it in mediation if she doesn't agree to 50/50 custody of the kids. Im not sure how I feel about this, but have agreed so far. Either way it just feels like WAR.
Originally Posted By: nit84
The person that you see now is a WAS, this person is not your W that you loved and M. She may look and sound like your W but believe me when I tell this is not your W anymore.
This is 120% True, True, True. Exactly how I view my WAW.
Me: 39 W: 33 M: 9 years T: 10 years S7 S10 BD 10/19/13 W Filed 11/25/13 EA Confirmed 2/2/14 (no evidence of PA) WAW moved out 3/15/14
