As AnotherStander mentioned - this will take time.

As for your question

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Now what can I do with this epiphany? Anything? Would sending it violate a rule because she really doesn't care why anymore?

Sit on it. I would not send it.

You may want to consider posting over in MLC.

Peace,
Eric

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