Working on Divorce Busting every Day!

[Mic]

Thank you! I have read DR once and am on my second read-through. Your right I do need to GAL. It's hard because my happy place was our farm where I gave lessons and worked with children with special needs and those that have dealt with loss. Unfortunately my H felt that I loved the farm more than him and had an EA with the farm.
While at the same time I am dismantling my marriage I am dismantling my career.
I am going back into my other career a few days a week which is nice and I'm going out with friends. I'm looking into taking cooking lessons and other activities that I have never had time for. I am trying to fill up the days that I don't have the kids. I was blessed to be a SAHM mom and when I worked I always was able to have the children with me.
On another note - our daughters birthday is coming up. She told both of us all she wanted for her birthday was for us to be together on her birthday. We have both agreed to be at the party. I know we can both be civil to each other. We are always pleasant and have actually laughed together a few times during house switch/kid switch.
My concern is my friends and family will not be so quiet. My grandmother already said she Will say something. Do I warn my H in advance it is not going to be pleasant for him or do I just let it go. Should we not have a joint birthday party? Do I invite his family or is that his responsibility for his own party and just invite him to the party I am having for my daughter.
We have 3 parties coming up. My daughters and then my other daughters a few weeks after that. My sons is not for a few months but it will be a milestone since it is his first.
Suggestions on that?
I appreciate the year comment. I guess I have been dealing with this since October but I feel that since we separated and the divorce was filed in December is when it really hit home.