From what I can tell right now, she is NC with other man so she doesn't get kicked out. I believe she plans to stay home right now, get her funds built up, then walk in about a year. By that time OM's kids will have left home for college, OM will be able to leave his W, and they'll live happily ever after.
W hates me right now. Because of her pre-M bankruptcy, and because she stopped working soon after we married, everything is in my name. We have nothing jointly. It just happened that way - it was never malicious. This is holding her down and she hates it. It's one of the things W said is wrong with our R - "You control everything." 6 months ago, I would have been willing to change that. Today, she'd clean me out and run.
W has noticed my efforts at improved communication and my 180's and is suspicious and outright contemptuous of them. "A day late and a dollar short." Thinks I'm just doing it for financial reasons. W knows I'm reading relationship and self help books, and she hates it, because it's too late to apply to her, because she's done. So while I'm happy to report I identified some good 180's and followed through, the result is more hatred.
I guess this is expected, and I just have to continue to be consistent with my new behavior, even if it infuriates her?
So I can't worry about OM, PA or NC anymore. I think I have 6 to 12 months to become the man only a fool would leave, give her lots and lots of space, GAL and prep myself for life after D, because right now she is hell bent on that plan, and has a boatload of enablers cheering her on.
