I had an emotional affair our whole marriage

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I'm sorry to hear about that. If you have a chance, read all over these forums. Read Sandy's rules in the newcomers section. Keep posting even if you don't get responses, sometimes it takes awhile to get off moderation. I had an EA for 4 years and it was physical 3x. My H found out and it destroyed him. He decided to work it out, this was 3 years ago. I thought all was fine and then he dropped the bomb last month and we're currently in divorce proceedings. He hasn't moved out yet. I'm following Sandy's rules and hoping for reconciliation. You're not alone - this forum is really helpful, just knowing that there are others going through something similar. I do think you guys certainly have a chance of reconciliation but you can only control your own actions. You will have to be very very patient. She may have a change of heart after she processes all this.