I don't like the man he is right now at all. When I read other people's situations I can see that there is love behind the pain. I often don't feel that way with my H. He has so much anger and cutting comments. He refuses to see my changes. He excludes me in any loving or family comments.
Blues - My H was exactly the same. There was so much anger. If my H's looks could kill, I would have been dead a year ago. My H cannot handle criticism and if he felt attacked at all, he would spew angry comments at me. I guess it was his way of deflecting and keeping me down so that he did not have to look at himself. The only thing that helped was walking away from those conversations. I refused to engage. It took MONTHS but the anger eventually faded when I no longer gave him ammunition to flue his anger. Just let him be. You cant fix him.
If it starts, just refuse to engage. I am glad to hear that you are finally taking care of yourself! Love those kids and yourself.
