I love her... but she doesn't - Desperate

[melissag]

Hi Blinded, so sorry you find yourself here. There are lots of great people here who can empathize, so keep posting and reading!

Have you read DR yet? If not, make that your first priority. Go out and get a copy of it today.

What are the things your W complained about? Are they true? Have you started to look at yourself, the person you are, how you have changed during the M, if there are things you want to change about yourself?

Are you in IC yet? That can be so helpful, and even necessary for many LBSs.

Is it possible to get your W back? Maybe. Nobody really knows . . . even she probably doesn't know right now. (Though I am guessing she thinks the answer is no.)

I know how intensely awful this feels. I want to tell you that I am almost 5 months since BD, and while I still think about my sitch the vast majority of the time, I do feel a lot better than I did in those first desperate weeks.

What helped me a lot at the beginning was realizing that nobody was coming to save me. I had to save myself. What you do has to be about YOU now. You must GAL! Force yourself to exercise, participate in the things you always have, and find new hobbies, new activities, new friends. I don't mean go out and party and get drunk. I mean, find a life for yourself that will someday fulfill you.

Whatever happens with your W, you WILL make it through this. Know that.