Just wanted to let you know I'm reading and here for you. I agree with everything Wonka is saying. One thing that killed me when all of my mess started was when I approached my W about the love letter, she had plans the next day to go skiing with OM. I told her I was uncomfortable about it, but understood if she still went. She woke me up the next morning while getting ready to try to validate the letter as "just a friendly letter" and continued to drag me into a fight to validate her leaving. Last week, while separated, I met with W to get mail. She basically asked me why I didn't set a boundary that day. Why I "let her go" without telling her I will walk away. I told her it was because I fully trusted her. I can't go back and make that change, but I know she is clear on my boundaries now. I hope you can find your strength in this and I know you will.
