Unlearning Conflict Avoidance - 9

[Brahmin]

Hi Brahmin,

It is good to hear from you. Thanks for your concern.

I've started Frankl, something that has always been on my list. With my German background, I've found it important to visit concentration camps and to try to understand, of which maybe this is another part.

I spoke with my sister this morning, who was concerned about fairness and keeping assets in all this. If this boils down to (mostly) selling the house, and splitting it 50/50, then it seems manageable. Probably there are other issues/things lurking - do you have advice here?

Well just get out of the situation as resonable as you can, dont drage the conflict, lawyers love to make money on estate division and fairness arguments. In the end you both will make the lawyers rich so think smart now.

I'd like to do it right, or at least better, if there is a next time. How is it going for you on that front?

Now your focus and clarity comes from spending your thinking and actions around your kids not wife not divorce not girlfriend, some times not even you. Be the best father. Connect to your kids emotionally and give them stability and warm. You will find answers coming to you when you look in there eyes with question. If I have a tough choice to make I look into my sons eyes and some how I tend to make better decisions. Keep your head clean work out every day go to gym, get a tredmill or work out bench , I have both , men are hunters dont forget, we need physical work every day . Don't sit in a room for 10 hrs in front of a tv or monitor, above all don't watch porn, it bleeds your soul, be real , get a gf if you have to, be brave. Be an excellent father for the next 5 yrs or you choose you time, leave that stupid heartless women, she is not worth your time, leave her emotionally , train your thinking.. You can do it , I struggle and back slide but I keep coming back on track. I need to strong emotionally to be an excellent father to my son. So if your ex makes you weak( fearful, indecisive, coward, unclear) you just let her go. Don't get me wrong you need to moan for her loss, its like she is dead for you, the hard part is she is alive and you will see her everytime you exchange your kids. It will get better. You will disengage eventually, life is beautiful and we are built resilient.
Luke