The lack of attention has paid off quickly, as H has been very caring and loving, almost to the point of being too pushy. He has asked that we hold off on divorce. He said that we can take time to figure things out :-)
For now I will keep on the same path. We will need to somehow turn the office into a room for H so I can have my own space.
I have decided to think of our neglected house as our neglected marriage. I will spend time making it beautiful again, and I will spend time working on me. I still don't know how to deal with a H who thinks that he needs an open marriage and who needs to be infatuated to be happy. It's been going on for years. Every couple of years he's tried to have an EA/PA or has wanted me to have a PA with someone else. I think he's a bit hypersexual, which has me worried that if all sex is turned off for a lengthy period of time, H will definitely be heading elsewhere.
------------------------ Me-50 Married 25, Together 28 D15, D18 EA since Aug 2013 H pulls back EA to "friend" status Dec 2013 D-Bomb dropped: Valentine's Day 2014
