I can relate to a W having some deep family of origin issues. My STBX says that is just who she is and she isn't gonna change. That is the big reason why the wheels came off after we reconciled. It is unfortunate.
That being said, the self growth that you are experiencing is absolutely necessary. You will have new relationship skills for any future relationship, whether it is with your W or a new person. I can assure you, the work is worth it.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
