Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[labug]

. I see over and over on here how you're basically scr*wing your chances of R if the LBS moves out.

Ok, you know I like data and I doubt that there's any really good data about this because there are so many variables.

When my H dropped the bomb, 'I said OK, you move' and even tho I did it from a place of pain and anger, I'm glad it happened that way. I postulate that I wouldn't have grown as I did if we had been together. Just my story but there are no absolutes. The bell curve is a bell for a reason.

Get out, get your own place, make it yours, create a new life.

Today I'm feeling about 90% sure that we'll get a D no matter what I do or change just because my husband is so stubborn once he says he'll do something. I don't think I mentioned this earlier, but he stayed in a job he hated for 4 years because he had "committed" to it. It wasn't until someone literally walked down the hallway and said "it sounds like your bosses aren't treating you well... would you like to come work with me?" that he left. No effort needed on his part. But it's also the only thing going for me in that in takes H a loong time and an extreme situation for H to act, so if left to his own devices I can't imagine the actual D starting for months.

I said and believed something very similar. Anything is possible. What we do know for certain is, if you create a good life for yourself you can be happy and your H might look toward you.

What have you got to lose?