Now What???

[RealityTrip]

What "act" are you trying to put on?

I'm not trying to "Act" anything but "As If" when I'm frustrated.

RT,

A few questions:

-How was your HVD date and its after effects?
-How did the two of you interact during the weekend?
-How are you feeling emotionally at this stage in regard to setting the NC boundary with W?
-What is your truth in regard to the XOW contacting W?

Answers to the above questions will aid me in giving you some input and some options.

HVD was great. We recovered from the xAP letter and had a great time.

Emotionally at this stage I am over the xAP contact. I want complete NC. She has said she won't contact but always responds when xAP does and now is initiating herself. I am ready for a NC boundary. My W still has the thinking that one day they can still have a friendship, like they did before the affair for so many years. She is not willing to admit that this is different than any other "ex" that we are still friends with. I want xAP out of my life, even if that means losing my W.

MY truth in regards to xAP contacting my W is that I am pissed but not surprised. She's actually chasing her less than I thought she would. I need to remember that. I tried to prepare myself for it, but the truth is, that my W not drawing a strong line to protect me hurts me.

In this situation she has decided to comfort xAP and herself knowing it will hurt me but that is acceptable to her. I need to reflect on what that really means.