Other than claiming back your bedroom, what else have you done to achieve self-respect? What is another area that you can do this? HINT: Think of other ways that you gave yourself away, and need to claim back... (as I type this question, I realize that I need to answer it myself)
I really like the ideas of no electronics in the bedroom and frequent date nights...
As for hand holding... my dad is now 80 and I am ...well, 37! (maximum!!).
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)