I don't think I have been too pushy. I would like to push, but am sitting on my hands. I know pushing is not good.
He did respond to my text last night. He responded with more work information. I replied "sounds like you are organized and productive" He replied "yup, feels good". I haven't replied since.
I am working on my patience. I agree he needs more time. I am still very afraid to lose him. He is a stubborn, "thinking" kind of person. He is not one to "jump" into anything sporadically. I just fear that if we don't keep the momentum going, it will be lost. I fear that he will feel I didn't "jump" at his attempts.
I also have read and WANT for HIM to work hard at getting me back. This is quite a challenge for me. To sit and allow him to make all the moves.
What did I learn? (not from today), but BEFORE ... I saw that when he extended an inch, I tried to take a mile. He fears that I will do that again... not sure how not to do that specifically. All I want is to "know" we are "working" on us. Then I can back off. Without his "committment" to that statement, is keeping us in limbo... He even admitted that to all of us (mediator, myself and himself). As for DB101, I have and am continuing to give space, and have not pursued anyting today. I do wait for him to text.
Not sure what else I can do....
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
