Just had to get tough with D19. She is pi$$ed. She called for more money. Since January 20, I've sent her $125 in cash, paid the housing deposit, purchased two textbooks, gave her $25 in cash for laundry. She needs money for her sorority dues. Last year, I told her that, if she joined a sorority, she needed to get a job. Well, I'm sorry, but I'm tapped out. And, honestly, if given the choice, I'm going to North Carolina.
I told her clearly. "YOU need a JOB."
I got the "But, mom, I've tried."
To which I replied, "You are smart and you can figure this out."
"I don't have a car."
"Like I said, you are smart and you can figure this out."
She needs to understand that college is a privilege. I'm sorry that it has to be like this, but I don't want her frittering this opportunity away. She spends way too much time on the sorority stuff.
If she learns, now, how to organize her time and pay for what she wants in life...She will be better off in the long run.
Having things taken care of, easily, never helped me or her father much. I'm sure she is feeling low and scared right now, but she is tough and can handle it.
Ok. Those two students are out. Job, you are right. I've given enough. I'm done being taken advantage of. I will let them know this week.
I just looked online at the cottages my sister is renting for the stay in Asheville. I think it's do-able. And, I could bring the dog which means I save some money on a kennel ($100+). It would be from Saturday/Sunday to Thursday. I think that's about perfect for me right now. I will call it spring break with my students.
Yes, I created some really stringent boundaries for the difficult student. Nanny will be attending with him. 3.5 hours tops. $540 per month. I also told them I need a 6 month commitment--no allowances for sickness, cancellations, etc...
"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man
“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson
