Afraid I have waited too long

[nit84]

I need opinions please.

I was leaving for work this morning but the car was pretty frozen so I thought while it warmed up I would broom the driveway of a dusting of snow.

As I was doing I noticed the W came out to warm up hersI noticed the car wasn't started. Dead battery I m sure.

She came back out and tried again and looked in her truck for jumper cables I asked her if she needed a jump she said do you have cables. I said yes and so do you but I will get mine.

She said she could call AAA and I said it is up to you. She came back out and said did you check your truck in a negative tone. I said I was doing that now but before I did I wanted to put something away.

I went and got the cables. she tried to pop the hood she said it is no use it is frozen very frustrated. I tried to do it and it opened. W eye rolled. I then said we should push the car backwards to allow us to connect batteries better. She said why don't we just push it forward and you can get around it. I said that would work then maybe we could push it to turn it around then. She said it is a car you wont be able to move it. I said well lets try your idea first.

I had her put the car in neutral and I begin to push she said I told you you couldn't do it. I rocked it a little and I pushed it. W eye rolled and sighed.

I pulled next to her and she asked how to hook up the cables and I showed her how.

I am not mechanical in nature but know a little she said it must be something else because the second time she tried to start it she had power to radio and lights. I said this sometimes happens it is probably the battery. She said you are not a mechanic. I said I am very aware of that. She cranked the car and it started. W eye rolled.

She said that battery must be cheap( I bought it 1 year ago) I said it was the best they had and I think it has a decent warranty anyways. She said yeah but I bet we don't have papers for it( we always were horrible at filling out warranties and sending them in). I said not sure but maybe they have it the computer where I purchased it.

She thanked me twice and I said sure anytime and we both walked back into the house to warm up a bit. She was on the phone when I left after warming up.

My question is did I do the right by helping her out? She was negative throughout the interaction. I let it not bother me and concentrated on getting the job at hand done.

For a split sec before I asked her if she needed help I thought Ha Ha!! Then I felt bad and asked. When she got negative I didnt even think about stopping what I was doing.

Should I have let her figure what to do on her own?

These seem like silly questions to be asking but I am unsure if I did right.

I had and have no expectations that this is will lead some kind of turning point. When I decided to help it was something I would have done for anybody in need of assistance.

The issue is my W always thought I did things to get things in return.

These are her feelings and I cant control them.

I cant say that 100% of times I did things I wasn't expecting that at some point someone would pay it forward to me, but for the most part I do things because it was the way I was brought up. If someone needs help you help them.

I cant stop thinking that my W thinks I just helped her so she will be indebted to me in a way.

I know I cant help what she thinks but is there a way of doing things for people, anybody not just my W, That they wont feel like they owe me something?