my wife left, but still lives with me #2/continued

[tough spot]

I had asked that question about dating based on a conversation with my IC. My life feels like it is 'on hold'....that i am just waiting to see what my WAW does. The IC said if I was to start dating I sure as shi*t better make it clear to my wife first.

So I don't think it was to get a reaction out of her...it just came up in the conversation. If things were 'officially over' and I felt there was no hope, that actually might be an option. I don't think I am there quite yet. The longer it goes with no change I can see me getting closer to a situation like that.

And while the D is her decision to begin with, we are still in this together. If I can avoid paying for a lawyer and she can as well, I would put that as a win/win situation. Perhaps I should have kept that to myself, IDK. Since I don't bring up the topic of conversation, it makes it kind of hard to be prepared for what to talk about and what not to talk about!