Sandi, I agree! Tonight W and I got a chance to sit and talk about bills and our daughter's upcoming bday party. She mentioned again about telling the kids and I told her I don't support that since D is not my idea to begin with. She then said "do I have to do it myself?" And I told her we should probably not discuss this now and let's just talk about the party. To my luck, she agreed!
The question is: what do I tell the kids if she decides to move out? What do I do if she tells them ahead of time without me?
About DB, today was awesome! After the financial talk, she started to cry because: unexpected bills, her current situation(her new job is stressful). I offered to help and tried to hug her but she pushed back at first but then allowed me to hold her hand. Then I stood and told her I want to help as much as I can, just to let me know what I can do(my schedule is more flexible) and she nodded. Then I told her I mean well and tried to hug her again and she hugged me back! It was late so I told her to please get some sleep. And I politely left. I didn't say a word about our R or M so I feel proud of that. Not even a couple of minutes later she came to my room (she never does this) and she asked me to change the clothes to the dryer (this was odd as my clothes were the only ones there) and she never asks for stuff like this (Specialty at midnight). I saw her still sobbing so I stopped her, grabbed her face, cleaned the tears and told her "you are and awesome mom, teacher, person,.... Just think about this as your start your day again tomorrow. Don't let this let you down" and she said "are you playing mind games with me?" And I said no, I care about you. Then we hugged and I told her good nigth
Me: 37, WAW 33, M 13 years Kids: Boy: 4, Girl: 8 Separated: 10/24/13 DB since: 12/14/13 Big D talk started: 1/1/14 (Not served yet) Still living together/Separate rooms
