I won't give up II

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kml,

I do have an attorney. I sent an email to him on Friday knowing that it was only a matter of time that he filed for D or S. I will call him on Tuesday if I don't hear from him. I do have quite a few questions for him.

I watch the accounts, checking them 2 or 3 times daily. The only one that I can't see is his 401K. Nothing is unusual and he is still "saving money" as he claims. But then, that is today, tomorrow he could take it all and put it somewhere that I can't track it. I make copies of everything on a daily basis. I have copies of everything starting from a few weeks prior to him buying the other house. They are kept in a place that he doesn't have access to. I will turn them over to my attorney when I meet with him.

That's a good question. I'm not sure why a separation. Possibly that it doesn't seem as final in his mushy mind. I will ask my attorney to be certain but I read something in our state law that says that after a separation is filed there is a period of 6 months before it can be changed to a D.

I have no concern what is right for him. I am only concerned with myself. When it comes to protecting our/my money it instinctively becomes a business transaction. I want to be sure that every last nickel that is legally mine is accounted for and deposited in my accounts. It's not so much for me but exactly as you stated. I won't let the ow get one nickel of MY and our children's share of the money and as an afterthought for his sake as well.

I think as he finds out what this involves he will slow down a little. He doesn't like anyone knowing about or getting close to the money and he will have to disclose everything if he proceeds with a separation.

Negotiating is something I have a fair amount of experience with so I think, with my attorneys help, I will be okay.

Thanks for reminding me about keeping my emotions in check. At this point they aren't for his well being but anger. I don't want to come across as cold and heartless either.