One baby step at a time...

[2ndTimeHurt]

If this works for you, then great.

But I will point out one last thing. You said multiple times in that post " it worked the last time"

But not so much, you're back. I'm not saying it to be mean. There are things we do that could most certainly get our spouses back. But for how long? The key is the long term changes in the M.

When my ex and I were dating, he decided to see if the grass was greener with another chick. I got him back with kindness. But the relationship dynamic never changed.

Obviously, same crap happened, only much lee detrimental this time.

Just another perspective

Good luck

I totally understand that. And that's why I brainstormed what went wrong. I figured there were a few key points that would have to be addressed if we were to make it long term.

I also wrote about the piecing process. I screwed that up pretty good. Our counselor didnt help either. Our counselor didnt help find a way for my ex to forgive me properly. It actually wasnt even addresed and i shouldve known to bring it up. I know my ex really wanted to make it work, but she just didnt know how to let go of her resentment. She had let go a bit but not enough obviously. I screwed up majorly in our first ralationship and I worked very hard to change my behaviors. She saw the changes and believed them. There are so many factors involved in making a relationship work. It really is complicated.