Is it soup yet?? Are we there yet?? How much longer??
I understand where you are coming from!!
For me, "done" seems to come in increments, and seems also to vary day by day.
And I don't know if 100% done is even a possibility... depending on the circumstances. Maybe all we ever achieve is "done for now".
Done is when there is no hope of reconnecting. Done seems like a great place to be because despite everything, I still have that hope. Very, very little, but it is still there. I don't want to have it anymore but I cannot seem to quash it.
Perhaps it cannot be actively quashed. Perhaps that last flicker of hope only dies from neglect, from stopping the nourishing dreams and wishes. I understand your wish to "get there", to be without the hope, because the hope carries the hurt doesn't it?
I'm sending you good vibes.
~Jaye
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.