Also, minor flirtations is all it takes to light the fuse to have an EA or PA. Until you are healed and are absolutely sure you are done and filed for a divorce, you need to be careful. You don't want to get in over your head w/a new relationship and something may transpire that you and your h may begin the process of reconciling. It's not a good practice to have a third party in the marriage, even if he's done it...but you are the sane one here and need to put the breaks on this until you have filed the paperwork. Also, you've got to be happy w/yourself and you do not want to jump into a rebound relationship and still have that baggage in the closet.
Please, be careful w/this stuff. I've seen some not heed the advice we give on this type of stuff and then they return and say that they should have listened to us. Clean up your side of the street and make sure the broom is put away before taking on something else that could lead to more serious consequences.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
