I won't give up II

[BrightFuture]

NLT, your H’s behavior doesn’t stop to surprise me. I just don’t get it. Does he seriously think that he can have you and OW at the same time? It seems to me that what he is trying to do. As long as you were going along with his double life he was fine. Once you “threatened” this with your non-disclosure of OW’s H showing up, he decided to threaten you too by bringing the separation process. But, he is not going to do now, or in the next few days, or in the few weeks. WTH? I think this is his way to keep you on the hook and make himself look like a fare, thoughtful guy. And, yes, he wants to make sure that you know he still in control.

He kind of realizes that this situation is not normal, and this why he trying to pretend that he is doing all the right things, like talking about separation. I don’t think he is ready to do it. At the same time he apologizes for not recognizing anniversary and Valentine’s day. So, he still considers you his W. And then he is talking to you about OW and her H like you are all good friends. This is just so bizarre to me that I really I cannot wrap my head about it besides what I already said.

I think you did good. I’m curious to see how “slow” he will proceed. My bet is he will not do it at all for some time, or not ever. So, my advice to you is to be prepared for this, but don’t think about it at all in your everyday life. Let him be and deal with OW’s crazy business.

By the way, my H told me something similar last April, when he brought up the D subject. He wanted me to think about it and he wanted us to do the paperwork together. I said I would, but in the next visit I told him to go ahead and file and send me the paper work, so I could pass it on to my attorney. He was very surprised and asked me if I already had an attorney. I said no, but I interviewed a few. So, I didn’t hear about the D subject since then.