M-So sorry things have gotten so ugly for you. Ick! Your H is more interested in projecting and blaming than problem solving.

My H used to do the same thing. If I was ever hurt or upset, he would get upset at me for being upset instead of saying, 'Is everything ok?' 'What would make this better for you?'

Ugh. They are definitely not on pedestals anymore.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014