She left - My Story, First Post

[gogofo]

The MIL kind of pulled a fast one yesterday. I called them and went to there house to deliver sausages and had a glass of wine and sat and talked to her and my FIL for a while. All of the sudden the MIL says "oops the W is here, is that a problem?" I say no, it will be fine.

The W had no idea I was there either and her mom did not tell her. I think the MIL thought she could "trick" us into having and evening with each other, which was nice thought on her part, but far from what happened.

W comes in with kids and I was going to stay and eat some dinner when after about 45 minutes she asks to talk to me in the garage.

She is upset and pissed because I was there and she thought I was doing it to hurt her etc. She is made because she I never would have just hung out on a Saturday at her parents house. She was very emotional.

I just remained calm and told her that I wanted to deliver sausages and have a chat with her parents because I had not seen them in 2 months. Told her that I understand why she would be upset, but it had nothing to do with her. I didn't let her emotions pull me into an argument or ruin my evening.

I told her I would leave if she was feeling uncomfortable, and calmly left their house.

I think the 180s and my GAL are working as I am feeling better about my decisions and what I am doing. I remained calm and did not participate in a fight or get overly emotional. I told her I can understand how she is upset, but my actions had nothing to do with her; which was the truth.

She sent me text later apologizing for her emotional outburst, but I went along with my planned evening and had a great time.

The detachment part has been hard, but after yesterday I think I am farther along into it than I thought I was.