2TH, I am sorry that I don't have any wisdom for you.
I'm kind of confused about your sitch right now. Why are you always driving her all over the place? Do you share a car?
What is going on with her OM?
Do you feel OK driving her places and bringing her lunch and coffee, and all the other things you do for/with her, when there is an OM in the picture?
I get asked that all the time, about the driving. People assume I drive her everywhere anytime she asks. That's not the case. I will drive her home if she comes by here to pick up our son or I will drop him off or I will pick him up. We live really close driving distance(5 min) and her work is at the end of my street. The driving I do is very minimal. She doesn't have a car and it is wickedly cold here. I've told her before that if it involves our son I will drive. I'm basically staying true to my word. I don't always drive her but I do drive her when our son is with us.
I have no clue about om and I don't care right now. I don't ask anything regarding him. I think I'm just trying to act as if he doesn't exist. No clue if that's right but it does help to get him out of my headspace.
About the coffee and stuff like that.. Hmm. Maybe I don't think it's that big of a deal? Maybe I brainwashed myself into thinking be kind anyway? I really don't know if I'm not ok with it. It doesn't really enter my thought process. I just do it.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
