2TH, I am sorry that I don't have any wisdom for you.

I'm kind of confused about your sitch right now. Why are you always driving her all over the place? Do you share a car?

What is going on with her OM?

Do you feel OK driving her places and bringing her lunch and coffee, and all the other things you do for/with her, when there is an OM in the picture?

me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14