"Once we cleaned the room and got the kids back into bed I was somewhat lost. I felt kind of useless and hurt which I know isn't good but I was in the moment somewhat."
So why do you think you were lost? My bigger question is actually how did you address your daughter's behavior? I have faced the poo fiasco myself and I am wondering how you responded.
The netball thing is tough.....I see where you are coming from. At the same time your wife may see that has individual time.