So...in regards to detachment. I've read Sandi's rule and have read DR but I don't have clarity on where the lines in conversation are specifically. One of the things my W seemed to be bothered by was a lack of being told how great she looked. Should I still avoid saying that or is it appropriate to tell her she looks beautiful when we see each other?
Also, I see that I am not supposed to pursue but does this mean I should never make contact unless its about S?
And then I know I'm not supposed to ask her to go out places with me until R phase but what about asking her to come along when taking my S places?
