melissa - gotta get back to me

[paul19510]

Hi M. Just catching up on your thread...busy day. I sgree eith shat peopls said and think if makes sense. Sd are hab ing some similar attachmsnf issue as tou noted to me before. I learned becofe thaf people sill even confinue with poor od dysfuntional contsct instead of none. Schnarch mentions the concept. I don't have the book in front of me but I remember seeing it.

I think we both have to do a better job of letting go. You can't move corward like this and there is nowhere to run back to. You are doing great for where you are. Youve vot to let H vl in order to stop hurting like this. I need to do that with W. Its a daily struggle. We will get there. Have faith. You sill hanlde this and come out stronger. ((((Melissa)))))

Ps I think the H is so matter of fact about it bc they know we are still there. If you moved on and met someone or just moved on really. He'd flip....don't do it bc he'd flip...just do it because you deserve it. Let H go. I will keep working to let W go too. Keep posting.