Rebel without a clue

[prometheus]

Less than half an hour ago i worked up enough courage to tell my wife that i was "having difficulties with moving out". It was not an ideal time to discuss - but it never is with us. We haven't really ever set boundaries with the kids so we could have time for us, so S6 and D12 kept on flitting in and out and interrupting our conversation. This has been a common feature throughout our marriage. I think we both find it frustrating but don't have any strategies to deal with it.

I used the words as quoted above to the best of my memory, prefaced with "There is something that i need to talk to you about". That is all that i said initially. I let that hang there to see what W would say. She replied, "yes, i have noticed that". After a few minutes (and one or two interruptions from S6), W asked "Why?".

In turn, I answered by saying that i "could not convince myself that it was the right thing to do, and just could not bring myself to do it". More time went by before W replied by saying "I suspect that you are more concerned with what is best for you rather than what is best for everyone else". With that, she got up and went out for some supplies (both kids had been nagging her to go). She called out to me "back soon" from inside the house and left with S6. They have not returned as yet. I don't think that i really need to respond to W's last comment and i feel that she will have more to say when she gets back. I am pretty sure that she is annoyed.

I am on the brink here guys. W is not alone in suggesting that i am being selfish for staying. That i am not doing the best by my kids by staying. I am so confused.