I just read a book that was co-authored by Louise Hay, titled --You Can Heal Your Heart (just released this month). Since you've written about exploring your spirituality, mentioned recently watching Wayne Dyer's film, The Shift, learning about Law of Attraction, etc, I thought you would appreciate this spiritually based book as much as I have. :-)
It covers all kinds of loss - breakup, divorce (including affairs/OW), grieving what never was (our plan A life) and how to best deal with our actual life (plan B). Louise talks about learning to honor the love...but no longer honoring the pain.
The following also deeply struck me:
"Can you just accept the truth? Why let fairy-tale thinking manipulate the situation? This is a moment when you're struggling and should be grieving. Can you grieve the disappointment fully and be done? Why chase someone who doesn't want you? Why would you want to bring that kind of neediness into your consciousness?"
"No one out there is your source or holds the key to true love for you. True love is always inside you, and you decide, consciously or unconsciously, whether you allow yourself to access it."
The Power of Mirror Work: She strongly suggests nurturing SELF LOVE and SELF WORTH through mirror work. And she mentions that any resistance you may feel....comes from a part of you that finds yourself unlovable.
So....
Every morning and every night before going to bed (and even in between if you pass a mirror) tell yourself the following type of positive affirmations:
I love you
I will be good to you
I love and accept you exactly as you are
All the love I need is within me
These are just a few examples from this lovely book. While reading the book and then coming on this forum afterwards (and remembering some of what you've written) I felt compelled to share some of this info with you. :-)
