BELOW is what else you wrote that seems to conflict with the ^^ prior comments.
I didn't start to become detached because of no sex. I started becoming detached because no matter what I tried before DR, my wife spoke in no uncertain terms how she's miserable and wants a divorce. So I try the LRT and that means detachment, not being mean, cold and cruel, if anything that's what she is to me sometimes. She says she wants to leave but her actions say otherwise.
It's been two years since her declaration and she still didn't save for the filing of papers. That was very frustrating to me. It was like, you can be my husband to support me, put food on the table, put a roof over my head, pay my health insurance, BUT you cant be my lover. That's like having your cake and eating it too. She has no responsibilities except to put herself in a position to get the divorce she wants so much, but to this day she has done nothing except restate she doesn't love me anymore. Can you see why I feel i'm being used?
Not so much... is your wife doing most of the housework, cooking and childcare? How much work does your special needs son, require?
And her troubled pregnancy, does that mean she cannot or should not have more children?
If so, do you see the connection between her feelings of not being "woman enough to bear healthy/additional children", and feelings of being attractive?
B/c it directly relates to a woman's libido, b/c if we do not feel attractive or secure, we are rarely interested in intimacy.
Anything strike you as relevant, here?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
