Sex-Starved??? That's an understatement!

[25yearsmlc]

You said you doubt how long you can do this. Do what? I'm sorry but I don't get it.

What is different in your r now, that was not already happening the past 10 years?

The "Fight" you two had last night sounds resolved. Sure you apologized. Getting over something is not going to be immediate. Even when I sincerely accept my h's apologies about something, usually, I'm not instantly "fine".

Real forgiveness is a process. Takes time. OR are you upset AT her for not agreeing with you in the first place and for arguing? So is it You who needs to let go and move on, or her, or both?

It also sounds as if finances are an issue for your m too. Not just the sexual aspects.

Last, I'm getting some mixed messages from you. At one point you wrote:

We shared tiny kisses but when my sexual needs weren't being met I rejected and was cold to those kisses. Now they are taken away and I would do anything to have them back. It's true when they say you don't know what you got till it's gone.

When I asked you about this^^, you denied it. But you also wrote:

You know, even though I was angry, hurt, depressed, and irritable, when ever I snapped at my wife (because I was feeling bitter and resentful especially because she acted numb to the problems we had) I thought I was being respectful by never calling her names, or doubting her intelligence, or intentionally saying hurtful things. What I learned is the way I questioned and my tone of voice said the same things I didn't say with actual words.


It's hard to admit some of the acts we do or things we say, let alone when we see it in writing, b/c then it's like a big confession.

But if it is true and needs to be changed, denying it prolongs YOUR pain, and hers...