Journal. The games are going well we won our first roundnand S played well. As agreed I sent W a pic of S in the game and told her I was proud and that he is playing well. I sent her the final score and left it at that. She replied : ....awesome, glad to hesr its going well..." I just droppednit at this point. I think she's just being polite. But I did whst we agreed and kept her up to date about the kids.
Paul, her comment was polite...nothing else. I have zero doubt about it. She's NOT secretly hinting to you. At best, it's a positive interaction, at worst, a neutral. (I'd put it in the latter category simply b/c your wife knows how to reach you and how to be clear, when she wants to be.
She'll tell you if she changes her mind). And that's that. You're extremely enmeshed. I happen to believe that "where the head goes, the heart will follow" (if we let it).
You're standing in your own way. Get out of your way and start realizing you have to detach, which means LET HER GO.
No, that does not mean you are slamming the door to a recon. IT means you are showing her a new different you, a man who does Not "need" her.
And you are showing your kids what military families, among others, have always known. You CAN be a family with just one parent around and you can have fun together even if dad is overseas for duty, (or mom is a WAS...)
Do as much as you can with them that does Not remind you of her. That's why going to Italy with my kids was SO cathartic and stimulating, without any triggers of H coming to mind. To this day, probably the best trip I ever took.
In a way that is sad to say (since h was not there), but man, it was such an important lesson to teach myself and my kids.
Here WE are, and we are happy,
even without, or perhaps BECAUSE, the WAS is absent...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
