melissa - gotta get back to me

[labug]

Oh and maybe yo should keep a solutions journal separate from this. (not here) It's easy to forget the things that work and fall back into our old ways.

I will just continue to operate on the assumption that everything H does is somehow self-serving. It's hard and it hurts, but it's what I have to do.

You've done this kind of judging in the last couple of posts. Think about why you do that and has this been how you are post-conflict with your H? You can appreciate his acts without getting on the roller-coaster. That's detachment.

We can focus on the bad or we can focus on the good. We usually find what we're looking for.

I'd also like to see a post where you don't denigrate yourself. Again, where does that harsh judge come from. You have to kill that voice in you head to move forward.

Love the story about the flowers. I think we talked about this in the beginning but have you thought any more about doing really hands on volunteering?

I'm seeing ligth! You're doing great, girl.