WAW seems confused

[ManHope]

ok. So I got her a funny movie too and left her bath, candles, etc... ready for her to have alone time upstairs.
I ended up spending time with the kids and then I took them to see a movie.
Once I got home she was watching the movie I got her with the lights off.
I went to bed and let her have her time.

I'll continue DB today. Normally we don't make plans ahead of time on the weekends. Today is going to be the usual: She sleeps late, I get bfast for all. Then she may take one of the kids shopping for errands, groceries, etc... and all.
I may get busy doing home improvement stuff.

Of course, what we used to do is go everywhere together, so putting a smile while she takes off is tough as it is.

Now, I know she may still try and ask me to "talk" at some point. I know she did have a free consultation with an attorney a couple of weeks ago and she took home a worksheet to start filling out. I also know that her financial situation will be real tight and that may be scaring her. She has said before she wants to be amicable and not have any restrictions at all. She even said she will leave me the house.

I am curious how should I handle talking to her if she requests to? I sure don't want to agree to divorce but I also don't want to "help" her make it easy. The longer I can DB the better.

Also, two weeks ago she mentioned about talking to the kids at some point. That was an intense conversation and I told her not to break their hearts yet. She took this offensively (By the way that was the last time we spoke about our M). I am thinking if she brings it up again to go ahead and speak to the kids. Anyways, this is another point I am struggling with. I can apologize to them and tell them I am sorry for not loving her mom, thus, clearing her from guilt, but I am not sure if this should be the right move. Deep inside me I know the kids know I am becoming a more involved dad, more close, more tender, etc... and it will be confusing for them to see their mom trying to break the marriage. So, I don't know how in the world we can hide form the kids the fact that she is bitter and won't forgive.