Piecing - in doubt, struggling

[beaumont babe]

I was totally despondent. I thought my marriage was over. I followed DB and sought SBT. I credit my husband with the turnaround. He decided before disruptive my daughter's life, that it was an illusion. And he chose to be with me. I am struggling with the day to day. We have a great rapport. We are loving and affectionate. Sex is rare. I feel he is still seeking emotional intimacy elsewhere. whether is is the OW or someone else I try not to care. My question is: if I confront it, our time is monopolized by bad stuff and conflict. Do I ignore it and just work on building our relationship? This is harder than I thought it would be going in. I thought that once I won him back it would be rebuilding and making our life what we wanted...there is still so mush doubt and pain on my side. And I feel he still seeks "being known" on a deep, excitement level that the woman he lives with can't obtain. Is there anyone who can advise me on the piecing stages that rebuild trust and romantic love?