Brando... it seems like your wife... and I'll call her WAW (walk away wife) is being bombarded with everyone else's decisions of her best path. She hears what she wants to hear. No sense in arguing. Your in-laws are not helping, don't expect them to... You are very newly married (Oct?) and she is very young. Scary for a woman her age. My advice to you, is the same you gave to me... 37rules. Live those for 30 days and evaluate your sitch then...
But now... LITB asked you to challenge yourself... if you stop looking at her, and objectively see yourself, why is Brando here?
Me(F):40 WAW:44 T:13yrs M:9yrs BD:2/12 (I saw a text) ILYBINILWY: 5/12 PA admission: 12/12 (began 3/11) S:2/13 Moves in w/AP D begins: 7/13 W moves home to R: 10/13