Is it a deal breaker, this potential EA? If it is a deal breaker, then you are within your rights to ask her to stop and/or leave. Of course, there are consequences to going down this road..... But by definition, it being a deal breaker and say if she does leave, the result is the same, the R is over for now.
If it isn't a deal breaker, then you by definition have 'acceptance' of the situation. Acceptance does not mean having to like it. However, at that point, you must fully detach, which will be an awful bitch of a thing to do.
So I guess I would start with trying to figure out if it is a deal breaker or not. Without making a decision between those two paths it seems like it would be hard to go any where.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
