Oh, RT. How horrible. I'm sorry you had that experience.
I know you still have info to give us about your conversation with W after the text, but I don't see any reason xOW's phone number and email can't be blocked so she can't contact. Just throwing my .02
Hang in there, and hopefully you can salvage this day in the end!
Me: 39 H: 45 Second marriage for both H left 12/2013 M:4 T:5.5