Separated and on a Walk

[paul19510]

A quote from passionate marriage by David Schnarch..."marriage is a people growing machine." whether or not I stay married to W, I am growing.

Interesting that you bring up Schnarch's book. What do you think his take yon your M would be, both sides?

great questiom. It was the first work I read about 7 years ago. I'm not certain of thr answerm. We clearly fit the distancer/persuer idea. On my side I think he would say I suffer from abandonment issues. I did not differentiate enough from my family. I also think he would say I an enmeshed in my marriage.

On W' s side I think he was say that she is highly independent. She fears closeness due to some issue (s) thst has not been disclosed. Our issues fit like hand in glove. She needs to push off anf I need to be close. A sick little cycle begins. I loved the book. I must admit I envied the people thst did the work and found results. I am willing to do my work. There is only so far I csn carry this. We shall see. Btw we are bere in niagara now. The kids enjoyed the ride and learned things along the way. They were impressdd thst I knew my way around across almost 400 miles and knew where to stop for food and so fortb eithout looking at the map. I used to have an account newr here all of last year and drove this way a lot. My kids got to see another side of me.

D16 checked in from home. She sounds relaxed and confident about the weekend.

W is quiet. I provided departure and arrival texts as we had arranged to avoid anyway worry . I was inifially feeling a tinge of frustrstion thst she's not sbaring this moment. I took a breath and let it go. I will enjoy this moment for what it is.