I'm in, wife's out

[trc2009]

Well that escalated quickly. Went home for lunch. Gave the kids their Valentine's.

W said she's going to go online tonight at her parents (I'm staying with the kids at our house) to look at jobs. I asked her how it was going. She said, "nothing yet. But don't worry, I'll get a job so you can get back in the house."

Should have just let that one slide off my back but it didn't (hitting myself now). I told her that "her staying or leaving the house is totally up to her but she doesn't have to leave if she doesn't want to." She got really mad at me because she said she thought our plan was for her to get a job and her find her own place so I could come home and we'd do a shared custody arrangement instead of me coming over to the house.

We talked about that on Sunday, but didn't really come to an "agreement" other than her getting a job. Which led to all kinds of other crap coming out of the woodwork. Had to come back to work. She was crying, I was annoyed with her piss poor outlook on...well....everything.

She said if I came back to the house now she'd move because all we would do is fight. But the only thing that truly is bothering me right now is the separation. If we were all under the same roof, 98% of my issues would be resolved. But I can't because she said she's certain we would just fight all the time.

It's hard to detach when I see her every day and we have kids together.