I backed out of the dinner idea because my wife appeared happy for the first time in several days. There are plenty of other chances to try something but I wanted her to enjoy her mood. I can wait.

As for the gift thing, I don't really know how to explain it. I gave her gifts for her without expecting anything in return. What I meant about my wife's friend was more an 'it would be nice if she appreciated it' rather than an 'I expect her to appreciate it'. Kind of like a where I'm at v where I want to be thing.


Me: 31, W: 29
T: 4 M: 2
Kids: 3 (SS: 7, SD: 4, D: 3)
Separated, still living together: Nov 2013
Separate bedrooms: Feb 2014
W working away; kids with me: Nov 2014